Learn and Take No Offence...

A Thoughtful Life:

There is  beauty in giving ourselves it's own lesson....when we thought we are doing alright.
You see when I see the younger ones seemingly intentionally choosing the wrong path or situations, the more I wonder why  they don't particularly care about their body, education or reputation.
I wonder what made them come thru that decision where they can endanger or stunt  their future and at times their lives.


Has education in the school and loving supporting parents or family  not enough to try to make a thoughtful decision that will be good for them and their spirit ?


I wished my boys will not be jumping into bigger serious damaging step that can really burden and put hardship on their lives. I have seen it  and lived some. My past is a sum of  lack of experience, knowledge and education of what is really a good decision, a wise choice and a thoughtful engagement in life. My ignorance was the defeat of me...yet my courageous spirit is my safety net that kept holding and catching me from those disasters and shame.




Good Lessons:
I am now looking and admiring  these younger people, hopeful and faithful that they will have a clearer and better grasp of  what they can do with their youth, strength, brains and beauty...paired with a compassionate knowing heart. I am seeing most opposite...those younger ones trying to grow up faster, older yet shallower and with a fighting feisty attitude. I don't find it  amusing but interesting enough to wonder in awe how the most knowledgeable youth would just ignore the  good lessons they have learned and known from school and their parents.




Take No Offence:
It is not my personal burden to see them create their own  future's demise, dreams shattered and their youth thrown to the trash...yet its is my duty to let it go, forgive and take no offence for others stupidity and lack of thrust for themselves and love ones.  Looking back then and seeing what I have now, in my limited world, I only see love and forgiveness as the key component in surviving and thriving in this world, much as full of hope and excitement, it's, also filled with uncertainty and offensive surprises.

Happy Valentines Day!

For me love must be celebrated everyday. The Valentine commercialism is only good if it reminded you to treat your loveone extra special constantly not just once a year. A hug, holding hands , a pat in back, a little touch on the arms, a warm call, a small note of love, keeping quiet when the other is asleep...these are small everyday gestures that meant you cared...and when you care and are consuiderate of others feelings then there is love expressed.
Some articles that may inspire you to express good clean real love....

http://www.care2.com/greenliving/three-simple-ways-to-have-a-sustainable-valentines-day.html

http://www.care2.com/greenliving/valentines-day-no-nos.html

http://www.care2.com/causes/womens-rights/blog/lady-gaga-gives-smart-sex-advice/

http://www.care2.com/greenliving/be-a-perfect-lover.html

I am FRUGAL...

I have been featured at  Frugal Living at About.com.
Talking about saving more and being wiser with money is just so much fun.

http://frugalliving.about.com/od/featuredreaders/p/FR_Helen_ON.htm

Unnhappiness & the Fear of not Fitting In by Gail Vaz-Oxlade

REPOST FROM MY BLOG ON FEB/09...I think we needed to be reminded.

Social pressure to conform isn't in your imagination. It’s real.

If it’s such common sense to only spend what you can afford, why do so many people spend money they don’t have – use credit, in other words – to buy things they want?

Think about it for a minute? Why did you whip out your credit card and pay for that meal in a restaurant, pair of new shoes, or groceries? Why did you buy that big screen TV on a buy-now-pay-later program? Why did you use your line of credit to pay off your credit card? Be honest. Why?

People want to maintain lifestyles they can’t afford. Whether it is the social pressure to conform, our own sense of entitlement, or a disregard for the potential risk we place ourselves in when we use credit to buy STUFF, we’re delusional.

There are actually people out there who believe that using credit is “normal”, that it’s what they should be doing. After all, their parents did it, their brother’s doing it, so is their best friend. In fact, most of the people they know are doing it.

It’s as if people are afraid to just be. They have to drive the right car, go on an annual cruise, have new leather furniture, watch a high-definition, big-screen television, eat out three or four times a week, drink the best Scotch, or consume store-bought coffee every day. And they’re willing to exchange hours, days, months, years of peace of mind for the momentary high that comes with the new acquisition. Whazzup with that?

Social pressure to conform isn't in your imagination. It’s real. But if you submit, if you’re willing to live a life of smoke and mirrors, if you want it ALL right NOW, then you need to accept that you’re creating a miserable life for yourself. It’s only a matter of time before the piper comes a’knocking.

One way to gain some perspective is to ask yourself (and your partner) what it is you really want in life. If you only had six months left on this sweet earth, what would you want to be doing? Would you be shopping for new furniture? Would the kind of car you drive really make a difference? How about the handbag you’re carrying?

I often talk to my daughter, Alex, about how important it is to live a worthwhile life: A life that brings challenge and love, that allows you to share, to laugh, and to be happy.

So, what are the things that make your life worthwhile? And what are you doing to put more of the things that make you happy into your life?

Want a great book to read on happiness. Read The Happiness Hypothesis: Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom by Jonathan Haidt, Associate Professor of Psychology University of Virginia. Terrific book. Lots of great ideas on what makes us happy and what you can do to be happier.

If you love your life (as opposed to your stuff), relish the time you spend working, look forward to seeing the people you share your space with, and feel as if you’re making a difference, I don’t think the kind of car you drive, whether you have a big-screen TV, or how often you eat in a fancy restaurant will mean much. If you can focus on creating the life you want, taking small steps to achieve your goals and finding a way to laugh while you’re doing it, I’m willing to bet you won’t even miss your credit cards.

As Jonathan Haidt’s website (www.happinesshypothesis.com) says, "Happiness is not the shallow state of feeling pleased and chipper all the time. Happiness is the state of a human being that has achieved cross-level coherence within herself, and between herself and the people, challenges, and institutions around her. Happiness comes from between."

TILL DEBT do US PART , Gail-Vaz Oxlade

A NEW HOPE...

Every new year brings new hope...new dreams and new beginnings.

I was asked by my friend if what is my New Year's resolution and mindfully replied to her that it's more of what I want to do more or less and I, still, needed myself to be more conscious in utilising my time. A time spent unmindful can be just as  rewarding and useful if my lifestyle can finally be trained and molded to what is kind...what is right and what is peaceful and speaks justice to all.

I still needed to be kinder...so to speak ill of others is something I truly want to get rid off.
I needed to continue not to expect...so as to never to get hurt for something that shouldn't hurt.
I want a better and best mom to all my children that they may remember the closeness and love despite the distance and absence of my physical touch.
I must focus more on health, silence and prayers....and those who knew me knows what am saying.

Hope I get a chance to be the best I can be...at least DO the best I can be this 2010 and beyond...and that goes to all of you, my friends. Time is so precious that even with tons of money no one can really buy it but it's free for us to spend it. So spend it wisely and creatively to live a joyful existence in every waking days that God has blessed us.

Merry Chritmas to all!

I have been so excited with Christmas that I have neglected to show off my humble but proud christmas tree that I am so happy to decorate yearly. I love it so much that i have to have it again much earlier next year. I put it up only on the second week of December.

What are my wishes??? How about you? It is a great feeling to make a wish and imagine and hope for it to come true. I sure wish I  have more than a million dollars and and a family whom I can share it with. And  to survive all the trials and tribulations that the use of money can create.

My beloved time of the year is the Christmas season...a day is not enough for me to spend Christmas. It is the

the most wonderful feeling and  is not just to  give and  receive but be  amongst the loveones who truly care and honestly love us. The ones who had given me scars yet because of the lessons are the ones that healed me,too... effectively and spiritually.

May YOU all be Blessed and Be Merry this Christmas and a Prosperous and Peaceful New Year!

Congratulations to Efren Peñaflorida for winning the 2009 CNN HERO OF THE YEAR AWARD!

Thank you all to those who voted for EFREN...HE IS THE CNN HERO OF THE YEAR WINNER!!!

http://www.cnn.com/SPECIALS/cnn.heroes/archive09/efran.penaflorida.html