You know those forwarded emails with scary messages?
Find it here in snopes.com and learn what is real or not.
http://www.snopes.com/medical/toxins/lipstick.asp
Don't get scared quickly, use your gut feelings and smarts before jumping into a frantic move.
Sometimes it pays to think about it, it's origin and your friends who are as gullible as me(lol).
I am gullible and i admit to believing what other person would say...yet I will think about it then research and ask around afterwards. Just because I have learned that people can be as innocent,ignorant or just plain not knowing like me when it comes to these urban legends.
Let's get smarter!!!
Thursday, February 19, 2009
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
Be brave in changing your life
…and everything will be fresh and renewed energy will be more exhilarating to celebrate.
It is your life and no one can change it deliberately right now but you.
Choose a better path to walk and be brave to be uncomfortable and be loss in the newness of what can be the best thing that you have been waiting and wishing for. There is a prize waiting for you and you have to claim it after the fact.
When something is not working for you, change how you feel about it and how you do things around it. It is a matter of being confident and brave in making decisions. Failing is but what happened only because you forgot to be prepared in the downturn and stopped trying…failings are for those who never learn and never changed what they can.
Believe that there is more to you and your life is more than the redundancy of your boring daily schedules and chores. Life is what you make of it not what others expect you to be,to do and to know. Don’t wait for somebody to change your life but be the somebody you long to be,you long to know and believe. Only you can be that inspiration and the bridge to cross for a much needed self mastery and change.
Be prepared for another chapter. Life is a better read with one interweaving story of love, faith and decisions that changes the course of your own history.
Be Brave and Change!!!
Thursday, February 12, 2009
Unnhappiness & the Fear of not Fitting In by Gail Vaz-Oxlade
Social pressure to conform isn't in your imagination. It’s real.
If it’s such common sense to only spend what you can afford, why do so many people spend money they don’t have – use credit, in other words – to buy things they want?
Think about it for a minute? Why did you whip out your credit card and pay for that meal in a restaurant, pair of new shoes, or groceries? Why did you buy that big screen TV on a buy-now-pay-later program? Why did you use your line of credit to pay off your credit card? Be honest. Why?
People want to maintain lifestyles they can’t afford. Whether it is the social pressure to conform, our own sense of entitlement, or a disregard for the potential risk we place ourselves in when we use credit to buy STUFF, we’re delusional.
There are actually people out there who believe that using credit is “normal”, that it’s what they should be doing. After all, their parents did it, their brother’s doing it, so is their best friend. In fact, most of the people they know are doing it.
It’s as if people are afraid to just be. They have to drive the right car, go on an annual cruise, have new leather furniture, watch a high-definition, big-screen television, eat out three or four times a week, drink the best Scotch, or consume store-bought coffee every day. And they’re willing to exchange hours, days, months, years of peace of mind for the momentary high that comes with the new acquisition. Whazzup with that?
Social pressure to conform isn't in your imagination. It’s real. But if you submit, if you’re willing to live a life of smoke and mirrors, if you want it ALL right NOW, then you need to accept that you’re creating a miserable life for yourself. It’s only a matter of time before the piper comes a’knocking.
One way to gain some perspective is to ask yourself (and your partner) what it is you really want in life. If you only had six months left on this sweet earth, what would you want to be doing? Would you be shopping for new furniture? Would the kind of car you drive really make a difference? How about the handbag you’re carrying?
I often talk to my daughter, Alex, about how important it is to live a worthwhile life: A life that brings challenge and love, that allows you to share, to laugh, and to be happy.
So, what are the things that make your life worthwhile? And what are you doing to put more of the things that make you happy into your life?
Want a great book to read on happiness. Read The Happiness Hypothesis: Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom by Jonathan Haidt, Associate Professor of Psychology University of Virginia. Terrific book. Lots of great ideas on what makes us happy and what you can do to be happier.
If you love your life (as opposed to your stuff), relish the time you spend working, look forward to seeing the people you share your space with, and feel as if you’re making a difference, I don’t think the kind of car you drive, whether you have a big-screen TV, or how often you eat in a fancy restaurant will mean much. If you can focus on creating the life you want, taking small steps to achieve your goals and finding a way to laugh while you’re doing it, I’m willing to bet you won’t even miss your credit cards.
As Jonathan Haidt’s website (www.happinesshypothesis.com) says, "Happiness is not the shallow state of feeling pleased and chipper all the time. Happiness is the state of a human being that has achieved cross-level coherence within herself, and between herself and the people, challenges, and institutions around her. Happiness comes from between."
If it’s such common sense to only spend what you can afford, why do so many people spend money they don’t have – use credit, in other words – to buy things they want?
Think about it for a minute? Why did you whip out your credit card and pay for that meal in a restaurant, pair of new shoes, or groceries? Why did you buy that big screen TV on a buy-now-pay-later program? Why did you use your line of credit to pay off your credit card? Be honest. Why?
People want to maintain lifestyles they can’t afford. Whether it is the social pressure to conform, our own sense of entitlement, or a disregard for the potential risk we place ourselves in when we use credit to buy STUFF, we’re delusional.
There are actually people out there who believe that using credit is “normal”, that it’s what they should be doing. After all, their parents did it, their brother’s doing it, so is their best friend. In fact, most of the people they know are doing it.
It’s as if people are afraid to just be. They have to drive the right car, go on an annual cruise, have new leather furniture, watch a high-definition, big-screen television, eat out three or four times a week, drink the best Scotch, or consume store-bought coffee every day. And they’re willing to exchange hours, days, months, years of peace of mind for the momentary high that comes with the new acquisition. Whazzup with that?
Social pressure to conform isn't in your imagination. It’s real. But if you submit, if you’re willing to live a life of smoke and mirrors, if you want it ALL right NOW, then you need to accept that you’re creating a miserable life for yourself. It’s only a matter of time before the piper comes a’knocking.
One way to gain some perspective is to ask yourself (and your partner) what it is you really want in life. If you only had six months left on this sweet earth, what would you want to be doing? Would you be shopping for new furniture? Would the kind of car you drive really make a difference? How about the handbag you’re carrying?
I often talk to my daughter, Alex, about how important it is to live a worthwhile life: A life that brings challenge and love, that allows you to share, to laugh, and to be happy.
So, what are the things that make your life worthwhile? And what are you doing to put more of the things that make you happy into your life?
Want a great book to read on happiness. Read The Happiness Hypothesis: Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom by Jonathan Haidt, Associate Professor of Psychology University of Virginia. Terrific book. Lots of great ideas on what makes us happy and what you can do to be happier.
If you love your life (as opposed to your stuff), relish the time you spend working, look forward to seeing the people you share your space with, and feel as if you’re making a difference, I don’t think the kind of car you drive, whether you have a big-screen TV, or how often you eat in a fancy restaurant will mean much. If you can focus on creating the life you want, taking small steps to achieve your goals and finding a way to laugh while you’re doing it, I’m willing to bet you won’t even miss your credit cards.
As Jonathan Haidt’s website (www.happinesshypothesis.com) says, "Happiness is not the shallow state of feeling pleased and chipper all the time. Happiness is the state of a human being that has achieved cross-level coherence within herself, and between herself and the people, challenges, and institutions around her. Happiness comes from between."
TILL DEBT do US PART , Gail-Vaz Oxlade
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I think we all owe it ourselves to choose more the joys of breathing and living everyday even with pain and trials and other problems. Life is short..live it kindly, love and laugh!
Other articles that explains more clearly about the Conformity
Thursday, February 5, 2009
BURGLARY
Last Week of Monday...my apartment has been burglarized. My bedroom has been trashed and all the money and jewelleries on that room were gone.
What did I lost?
Piggy banks money..lots of it...big beatuful expensive jewelries...UNINSURED.
How did I feel?
Lost energy, my knees are like jello...am barely talking.
Police went and came next day because according to him there is not enough cruiser car from previous night. He got some info ,no fingerprinting in the premises and sent me a wrong case number next day.
I did not cry. I did not whine. I did not make a big thing out of it.
I am stronger that I could ever thought I can be and that unfortunate incident made me learn that I am truly unattached to stuff. I have lost at least $10,00 worth of goods and money and I am not feeling depressed and taken by that loss.
I know more now that I am what I preach and that I have reached that higher level of tolerance to material stuff. I am not a slave to the things I love to buy and wear.It is merely an expression of style and outer beauty. It is just a comforting material to own or to know that i own but not real gem for my whole being. I have lost many many many things,money and opportunities.
I have forgiven and forgotten.
I am not allowing that thief to ruin my life and attitude in life. Yes, life sucks most of the time but you gotta' love how we learn from it and enjoy what's left. I am tested many times. I have been hurt deeply. I have been used, neglected and fooled yet I am still genuinely celebrating the life that I have in my own way.
I am calm,collected and at peace ...with this power in me I have never lost anything at all.
Just like what my favorite quote says "Complete possession is proved only by giving. All you are unable to give possesses you.-Andre Gide".
More quotes i have found that hopefully can help all of you in these materialistics time on earth.
Riches do not delight us so much with their possession, as torment us with their loss.
Dick Gregory (1932 - )
Every increased possession loads us with new weariness John Ruskin (1819 - 1900)
What did I lost?
Piggy banks money..lots of it...big beatuful expensive jewelries...UNINSURED.
How did I feel?
Lost energy, my knees are like jello...am barely talking.
Police went and came next day because according to him there is not enough cruiser car from previous night. He got some info ,no fingerprinting in the premises and sent me a wrong case number next day.
I did not cry. I did not whine. I did not make a big thing out of it.
I am stronger that I could ever thought I can be and that unfortunate incident made me learn that I am truly unattached to stuff. I have lost at least $10,00 worth of goods and money and I am not feeling depressed and taken by that loss.
I know more now that I am what I preach and that I have reached that higher level of tolerance to material stuff. I am not a slave to the things I love to buy and wear.It is merely an expression of style and outer beauty. It is just a comforting material to own or to know that i own but not real gem for my whole being. I have lost many many many things,money and opportunities.
I have forgiven and forgotten.
I am not allowing that thief to ruin my life and attitude in life. Yes, life sucks most of the time but you gotta' love how we learn from it and enjoy what's left. I am tested many times. I have been hurt deeply. I have been used, neglected and fooled yet I am still genuinely celebrating the life that I have in my own way.
I am calm,collected and at peace ...with this power in me I have never lost anything at all.
Just like what my favorite quote says "Complete possession is proved only by giving. All you are unable to give possesses you.-Andre Gide".
More quotes i have found that hopefully can help all of you in these materialistics time on earth.
Riches do not delight us so much with their possession, as torment us with their loss.
Dick Gregory (1932 - )
Every increased possession loads us with new weariness John Ruskin (1819 - 1900)
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